New place and New life for our family: Moving with Child

There are situations when you need to move to another house or apartment, and adults always understand the reasons for such action. But what about children? Often, the baby does not understand why he needs to leave his familiar room, favorite toys and yard where he meets with his friends. Many people make the mistake of thinking that the child will throw tantrums for one day and settle down. But if you move house, it is a great emotional stress for the baby.

Most child psychologists stress that kids between the ages of 6 to 12 years are experiencing particularly difficult move. For the little person getting to another area is equivalent to falling into another world – it’s hard for them to get used to another school, other teachers and other societies. Parents must realize that the most difficult thing when moving is not the transportation of furniture, but a moral preparation of the child for a change of residence.

For your baby it will be better if you move in the summer, so you should start planning your moving since the spring. Note that you will need some extra time to sign the baby to kindergarten or school. Of course, it would be good if you do this in June or August, because most administrative schools do not like taking children in the middle of the school year. In addition, your child will be much more difficult to adapt, given the fact that often the educational programs at each school have some differences, so if the baby will begin the school year at a new school, the teacher will help your child readjust.

Do not allow the move to be a surprise for your child – tell him about your plans in advance. Try to speak only about the positives – how good is your new home, what a cozy room there is for him and how wonderfully it will be furnished for the child. Tell us about the children’s playground at your home. If there is an amusement park or a circus close to your new place of residence, do not forget to mention it.

Psychologists recommend that on the planning stages of moving you pay special attention to your child – be affectionate with the baby, show your care, spend more time with him. The child will feel your mood, and if you are not sincere, then he will soon understand it. Talking about how beautiful is your new home and being constantly nervous, angry and doing chores, you will just scare your child. Remember that your daughter or son will not believe the words – they will draw conclusions from your behavior.

Many parents are concerned about the issue whether or not to show the child a new home before moving. There is no right answer to this question. If you bring a baby into the apartment with bare walls, then most likely he will not like it or even be scared. But you can do another thing – a beautiful house with a wide green lawn and a playground, with no doubt, will bring the baby more delight. Try taking him to a new playground, allow to play with the local children and ask whether he liked to play here. After the answer, hint your child that after some time he will come here to play all the time. Children like different mysteries and puzzles, so your baby will probably be intrigued with such a statement.

It is important to identify in advance the day when you start to move. To avoid possible panic that would frighten little person, write a detailed plan of your move. To start, make a list of what to pack in the first place, how many things you need to carry and what car you will need for transportation. On the day the move begins, you most likely will not have too much time to go to the store, so decide how much package materials, boxes and tape you will need.

Sign all the boxes in advance, so you do not have to search for things for a long time. First of all it is desirable to pack those items you use infrequently. For example, it is unlikely that you will need evening dresses on the eve of move – they can be packed in advance. This also applies to many subjects of utensils, household appliances, paintings, clothes out of season and so on. First pack things that you use less often.

Undoubtedly, collecting and packing all the stuff is very tiring. There should be a lot of packing boxes, bales, and many things need to wrapped in the paper. Unfortunately, children do not always understand how important are all these actions, and perceive your activities as a kind of game, and he will be willing to participate. Let him help you with something simple – it will make the moving much easier for your child.